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Letting Go ..



I had a friend ask me Tuesday how I was dealing with the stress of work in addition to all the activities leading up to Christmas.  He was having a hard time and had noticed I didn't appear stressed.  I explained that I had let my foot off the gas.  Not quite coasting but not be fixated on the end result.  I was enjoying the ride, if you will.

This was not me, he said.  I like to be driving the results, taking charge of rallying the troops.  I explained that it was time for me to help others drive.  My time would come again.  I was letting go of the outcome.

And I sleep better at night, I am a better mom and friend and I am enjoying the ride.  What a difference a change of perspective can do for the overall demeanor!  He was quite surprised by the advice - coming from me, but thought he'd give it a try to see if he could make that strategy work for him

I explained the stress doesn't go away, it's managed.  Just like everything else.  Deadlines, pressure, holidays, etc.  You figure out a game plan and allow it to take effect.  I'm happier with myself, and sometimes it surprises me that I don't need reminding, it's just the way it is right now.

The miracle is the letting go.  Although I've tried at different points before to let go of the outcome before but without good results.  This time it's so much easier!

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